Owning up my privilege.

I did not think, if there’s something worthy of appreciation that I’ve done, it is really mine to flaunt.

Hear me out — Despite coming from a relatively conservative family, my parents have been extremely supportive. They sent me to Goa (the party capital of India) to study, despite resistance. They went against the norms. Since childhood, I was encouraged to participate in school activities, my education was treated with as much importance as my brother’s, if not more. My efforts in school were appreciated, and I was taught to take risks. I was never trained to study just enough to get a good job or to be attractive enough for an NRI. My worth was never tied to my value in the marriage market (yes, it is a market, seriously). When I chose to work at a startup, instead of a comfortable job at a known brand, knowing it would be worse for the evening family time, my dad encouraged me to prioritise career growth. This was not the norm. This still isn’t. My parents took the extra effort to give me the support, that most of my cousins and friends do not have. They actively resisted all the pressure from family and friends.

Inequality and privilege are complex and layered.

It helps to understand privilege to understand your own journey in life and be kinder to yourself — especially in a world where so much of our self worth is tied to status.

If you think about life as a journey, every single disadvantage makes the journey harder. For a girl born in the Sahel, one of the poorest regions in the world, getting to a healthy, productive life requires overcoming hurdle after hurdle after hurdle.
Inequality is Complex. Illustration from The GoalKeepers Report 2019, Gates Foundation
The tyranny of merit | Michael Sandel



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